Suspecting that your partner may be struggling with a gambling problem can be distressing, confusing, and emotionally overwhelming. It can affect trust, financial stability, and your own well-being. Guidepoint Clinic is well equipped to help with many years of combined experience working with individuals navigating the challenges of gambling addiction.
If you’re noticing signs of a possible gambling problem in your partner, you’re not alone—and there are steps you can take to protect your mental health and get the support you need.
Recognizing the Signs of Problem Gambling
Gambling problems don’t always look like trips to the casino or frequent sports betting. They can take many forms, including online gambling, lotteries, and even high-risk investing. Here are some signs that may indicate a problem:
- Money is disappearing without clear explanation
- Bills are unpaid or credit card debt is growing
- Your partner becomes defensive, secretive, or irritable when money or gambling is brought up
- You notice excessive time spent online, especially on betting apps or gaming platforms
- They often “chase losses” — gambling more to win back money
- They’ve made repeated promises to stop but continue the behaviour
If some of these sound familiar, it may be time to have a conversation—but it’s important to approach it with care.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Gambling Concerns
These conversations are understandably difficult. The goal isn’t to accuse, shame, or control—but to express your concerns and protect yourself emotionally and financially.Here are a few guidelines:
- Pick a calm moment: Avoid bringing it up during an argument or when emotions are running high.
- Use “I” statements: For example, “I’ve noticed we’ve had trouble paying bills lately and I’m worried,” or “I’m feeling anxious about our finances.”
- Stay curious, not accusatory: Try to understand their perspective, especially if they feel ashamed or defensive.
- Be prepared for denial: It’s common for people struggling with gambling to minimize the problem or deflect. That doesn’t mean your concerns aren’t valid.
Protecting Yourself
If you suspect gambling is affecting your finances, it’s important to take practical steps:
- Educate yourself about problem gambling
- Keep some financial independence if possible, especially if you share accounts
- Avoid covering up debts or losses, as this can unintentionally enable the behaviour
- Reach out for support for yourself, even if your partner isn’t ready to get help
Your mental health matters too. Living with someone struggling with addiction can cause anxiety, depression, and burnout. Speaking to a therapist—even just for yourself—can help you process your feelings and set healthy boundaries.
Help Is Available—for Both of You
Gambling problems are treatable. There is hope, and change is possible. Therapy can help your partner explore what’s driving the behaviour—whether it’s stress, trauma, or a need for escape—and begin the journey toward recovery. Couples therapy may also be helpful if both partners are ready to work together toward healing.
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You don’t have to face this alone. Our clinic offers individual and couples therapy with experienced social workers who understand the complexity of addiction, financial stress, and relationship strain.
Book a free 20-minute consultation to explore how therapy might help—whether you’re concerned about your partner or just need someone to talk to.